Long Distance Love

Long distance relationships definitely aren’t what they used to be. With advances in technology, they are much more manageable. Maintaining a healthy relationship takes much effort. Adding distance and long separations makes it twice as hard. A good movie to see about long distance relationships is “Going the Distance” with Drew Barrymore. It’s a humorous take on some of the things you may inevitably encounter when trying to maintain such a relationship, for example, what to do about your career and how to sustain an emotional connection when your time together is limited.

Nothing can take the place of quality time but if you are currently in a long distance relationship, here are a few things you can do to alleviate the pressure of having to put your passion on hold.

Web cams, Face time, Skype and a whole host of other video chat software are your friends when it comes to long distance relationships. Use them often. They can easily be downloaded on our cell phones, computers and tablets which make it so much easier to “see” that special someone even if they are thousands of miles away.

If you’re interested in something different- something that is now thought to be reminiscent of decades past, consider a handwritten letter to that special someone.The letter can describe what you love about your significant other or whatever you think might put a smile on their face. To add a special touch, you can spray your signature fragrance on the letter so when it’s opened, it smells like you are right there in the room.

In addition, phone sex can serve as a great tool for sustaining the intimacy without having the physical component.

If you are not yet in a long distance relationship but it will soon become a reality for you, there are many things to consider besides your love. Traveling to and from different cities or even states can get very expensive. There always needs to be communication regarding how and when the traveling back and forth will take place. If this is a serious relationship, you have to have serious discussions about what the plan is going forward. Will you move to his city? Will she move to yours? Will the two of you move to a new city altogether? Who has the least to lose by moving? These are all questions that need to be answered before the relationship can move forward.

Obviously trust is an absolute must if a long distance relationship is going to last. If you didn’t trust your significant other while the two of you were in the same state, chances are the distrust will only increase when the two of you no longer live in the same vicinity. If your sweetheart told you he had to work and then 30 minutes later you see that he checked in at the local movie theater on Foursquare, first, that tells you that he’s not so bright. Second, he can’t be trusted. Either way you may want to rethink your decision to build a future with this person. Finally, if you find that you’re always the one initiating the phone calls, the video chats and you’re always the one making trips to see your significant other then maybe you’re more into them than they are in to you. This is something to take into consideration when deciding if dealing with the distance is something you want to continue with. At the end of the day one has to decide if the pros outweigh the cons. You have to ask yourself is it worth it?